Actual grave events in your family

The following kinds of events in families might burden children in later generations, because depending on the way they were dealt with, they might lead to disruptions in the orders of the family system:

•	Miscarriages, abortion, illness, psychotic problems, early death.
•	Disappearance, denial, exclusion or detention of family members.
•	Ill-treatment, crimes, violence, alcohol and drug abuse.
•	Incest, sexual abuse, problems around sexual preferences.
•	Fraud, betrayal, exploitation and suppression.
•	Broken love relationships, divorces and other separations.
•	Life or means of existence have been obtained at the cost of others.
•	The parents who raised the child are not the biological parents.
•	War traumas, crimes of war.

When you want to set up your family constellation, information about such events in your family will be important.